By Shannon Loehrlein, LCSW – October 29, 2019
Over the summer I participated in a free online class offered by Yale University called, “The Science of Well-Being.” It is taught by Dr. Laurie Santos.
I have recently learned that Dr. Santos will be starting a podcast called “The Happiness Lab,” which I am looking forward to listening to this fall and recommend you check out as well.
Happiness has always seemed like an unattainable achievement in our society. We are often plagued with the messages that society sends us about happiness.
It turns out that many of the things we think we want in life do not actually bring us happiness. In her class, Dr. Santos talks about the myths we believe about happiness and what science tells us actually does bring happiness.
What does society tell us is supposed to make us happy? According to Dr. Santos’ research the most common myths include: true love, having the perfect body, owning expensive possessions, getting good grades, having money, and having a good job.
Dr. Santos uses the psychological term of “hedonic adaptation” to explain why these things do not make us happy. In simple terms, this means that we become used to whatever it is we have.
For example, if someone won the lottery, at first it would bring increased levels of happiness. But eventually they would become used to being rich and yearn for more, more, and more. Hedonic adaption means that any level of happiness does not last for long.
People have the general tendency to return to a stable level of happiness. The good part of this is that even if we have a negative life event we will eventually return to this stable level of happiness.
So what are some practices that we can do to increase our levels of happiness and mood? Luckily for us, these practices are free and easy to use. According to Dr. Santos, the secrets of happiness are:
- Meditation – a practice to help someone become present in the moment and tune out distractions.
- Savoring – the simple act of appreciating and being present in the moment.
- Gratitude – taking time to appreciate the blessings in your life.
- Kindness – acts of kindness toward other people.
- Social Connection – having friends and being part of a community can make you more likely to survive fatal illness and less likely to die prematurely.
- Exercise – 30 minutes a day can boost moods and happiness levels.
- Sleep – at least seven hours a night for adults and nine hours a night for teens.
So now that you know the secrets of happiness, start using these practices daily. It may just help you live a better life!