By Christine Weinzapfel-Hayden, LCSW, Courier & Press, June 20, 2017 –
Many of us remember that when we graduated from high school we were not truly prepared for “real life” outside the classroom. Sure, we probably learned basic history, math and English skills, but we may not have mastered some of the other concepts we needed to be successful in life.
Summer is a great time to work with your child on some of these essential life skills. Successfulstudent.org provides a list of important basics to teach our children:
- Saving: We need to spend less than we earn. Teach your child at an early age to put part of the money received or earned in the bank. Help your child set a savings goal, work toward their goal and then make the purchase of the saved-for item.
- Budgeting: Teach your child the simple skills involved with establishing and following a budget. Practicing this concept early on will make budgeting easier when they are an adult.
- Charity: Encourage your child to give to charity – money, time and talents — as they are able.
- Critical Thinking: Introduce critical thinking, the objective analysis and evaluation of a situation or issue in order to form a judgment. Teach your child ways to look up information if they have a question that requires a thought-out answer or opinion.
- Positive Thinking: It is important to have a positive outlook on life. By helping your child find solutions instead of just registering complaints, they will learn to believe in themselves and block out negative self-talk and thinking.
- Motivation: Teach your child that motivation is the key to reaching a goal. Help them learn different strategies for self-motivation.
- Compassion: Help your child put themselves in the shoes of someone else. Help them understand and find ways to ease others’ suffering.
- Listening: Children need to learn to listen attentively and respectfully, understand what is being said and empathize with others.
- Basic Auto Mechanics: Both boys and girls need to know the basics of how a car works, what might break down and how it can be fixed (how to pump gas, check the oil, change a flat tire, etc.).
- Household: When you are fixing things around the house, explain the process to your child. Basic understanding of home repairs and maintenance can prepare your child for living on their own.
- Cleaning: Teach your child how to do laundry, clean a house properly and keep living quarters clean and uncluttered. Show them how to set up a weekly and monthly cleaning routine. Instead of just telling them what needs to be done, teach them the process and then encourage them to do it on their own.
- Be present: Live in the present and enjoy life. Develop a close relationship with your child and model appropriate relationships with your spouse, family members and friends. Teach them the skills for developing these types of close relationships and the importance of working through the bumpy parts as well.
Through modeling, teaching and being present with your child you are helping them prepare for the classroom outside of school – life!