Avoiding Freshman Year Follies

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By Katie Martin, MSW, LCSW – August 20, 2025 –

Freshman year is the most crucial year of high school, as it sets the tone for academic achievement and social standards. It can be a fresh start, or for some students, the beginning of ongoing struggles and painful lessons. When students start high school, their understanding of expectations is often far from accurate.

Freshman year can be intimidating, confusing, scary, overwhelming, stressful and exhausting; mentally, physically, emotionally and socially. High school becomes a rude awakening when failed classes must be repeated and discipline hinders progress toward graduation. Students may struggle with making healthy decisions that aren’t socially attractive.

It is important that students identify trusted adults, develop boundaries with peers, prioritize academics and attendance, strive for high grades, join extracurriculars, and incorporate healthy habits. Students who surround themselves with people who promote good habits and motivate them to take ownership of their high school career will experience more success and less stress. 

The goal of high school is to prepare students for graduation and life. Freshmen can take ownership of their success by taking control of the things they have control over, letting go of the things they cannot control, and distancing themselves from unhealthy relationships. Setting goals as a freshman and speaking up about concerns and feelings can greatly improve a student’s chance of success. 

Social adjustments are expected; students may have to redefine what is cool. Freshmen are trying to figure out who they are and where they belong. Having the courage to set boundaries with peers doesn’t come easily to most students. Students should build relationships with those who promote healthy habits that propel them toward graduation, such as trusted adults and positive peers. 

Understanding the connection between academic success and maximizing opportunities for the future is imperative. Typically, a GPA (Grade Point Average) is generated by averaging the points earned from each letter grade at the end of a grading period and/or semester; an F can result in a course being repeated if it is part of the graduation plan established with the student’s academic counselor. On average, most colleges require a GPA between 2.5 and 3.0, but this can vary. Freshmen should know their high school academic counselor, establish solid communication, and work closely with them to stay alert to academic opportunities and progress toward a successful post-graduation plan.

Parents play a major role in student success by modeling helpful qualities such as organization, problem-solving, assertiveness and navigating opportunities that promote growth. Parents should connect with school personnel to establish communication and create a network of trusted adults to collaborate with during the student’s high school years. Parents also need access to grades and attendance. They should check in with their student daily about successes and struggles.

Parents should also connect with school staff as needed but also direct their student to reach out to teachers to encourage independence, build appropriate and effective problem-solving and communication skills, and encourage positive relationships. Parents should attend all available parent nights, orientations, and any other opportunities to be present with their child in the school building. 

Freshman year can make or break a high school career. According to the US Department of Education, students fail ninth grade more than any other grade in high school. This can lead to feelings of frustration and discouragement that can result in less effort, lower motivation and the possibility of dropping out. Freshman year is hard; it requires more attention, organization, maturity and independence. Freshman year also requires students to make more thoughtful decisions rather than decisions based upon impulse or popularity. 

In conclusion, students are capable of graduating and can learn all the necessary tools to get there. However, work begins on the first day of high school, when every student will decide what they are going to do with their opportunity to learn. Supportive adults and a growth mindset will carry a student far. However, high school should also be fun, exciting and full of new experiences that can be enjoyed more fully when academics are well-managed.     

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Be the Superhero Your Child Needs: The Power of Presence, Love and Example

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By Nolan Miller, MSW, LCSW – August 14, 2025 –

We often think of superheroes as those who wear capes, possess powers, and save the world with flashy rescues. But in reality, some of the most important superheroes don’t fly; they stand beside a child, quietly shaping their future through love, support, and example.

Every child faces challenges. Whether it’s school struggles, peer pressure, big emotions, or feeling misunderstood, the world can be overwhelming. But when a child knows there’s someone who sees them, believes in them, and stays by their side, they begin to build the strength to rise above life’s storms. That “someone” can be you.

The Everyday Hero Work
You don’t need a mask or magic. You just need to show up. Listening without judgment, offering a hug when words fall short, and making time for even the smallest moments—those are your superpowers. The bedtime stories, the car rides, the walks around the block, the simple “I’m proud of you,” they all add up to something much bigger than we realize.

Children may not always remember exactly what we say, but they’ll never forget how we made them feel. Your presence tells them they matter. Your encouragement tells them they can try again. Your boundaries teach them safety. And your love, especially your unconditional love, teaches them how to value themselves.

The Struggles Are Real—and So Is Your Impact
When kids struggle, they need a safe harbor. Life comes at them fast—friendship drama, academic pressure, big questions about identity, anxiety about the future. And while we can’t shield them from every storm, we can anchor them. Your steady voice and open arms remind them that they’re never alone.

Being their superhero doesn’t mean fixing everything; it means walking beside them through it. Sometimes, just sitting in silence, holding their hand, or saying, “I don’t have all the answers, but I’m here,” is enough to help them breathe again.

The Legacy You’re Building
What you do today matters far more than you know. By showing compassion, staying consistent, and being honest about your struggles and growth, you model what resilience looks like. You show your child how to get back up. You teach them empathy, courage, and character.

And one day, when they’re older and faced with a world full of decisions and distractions, they’ll remember the strength you gave them. They’ll stand taller, walk kinder, and love stronger, because a real-life superhero raised them.

Final Word: The Hero They’ll Always Remember
In the end, it’s not about perfection. It’s about showing up again and again, even when you’re tired, even when you’re unsure, even when you feel like you’re not enough.

Because to your child, you are. You always have been, and you always will be. So keep going. Keep loving. Keep being the difference.

The world may never see your cape, but your child will never forget your impact.

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Back to School on the Runway: Event on August 9 Raises Funds for Kids

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EVANSVILLE, IN – The community and media are invited on Saturday, August 9, at 1 pm CT to Fashion for a Purpose at Eastland Mall. This fashion show, featuring Hot 96’s Sarah Pepper as Master of Ceremonies, is a fun back-to-school event that blends fashion and community, with proceeds benefiting Youth First.

Volunteer models will walk the runway and feature styles from numerous Eastland Mall stores, including Aeropostale, American Eagle Outfitters, Buckle, Hollister Co., JCPenney, Lane Bryant, and Maurices.

The event runs from 1:00-2:00 pm CT and takes place in the Dillard’s wing of Eastland Mall. Donations are being accepted for Youth First, a local nonprofit dedicated to strengthening youth and families by embedding licensed mental health professionals in 130 K-12 partner schools across 14 Indiana counties. Youth First also provides prevention programs, community engagement, and parent resources that empower youth and families and promote healthy behaviors, correct misperceptions, and foster positive development in young people.

“Fashion for a Purpose is another example of Eastland Mall’s commitment to the community,“ says Eastland Mall marketing manager Sean Ferguson. “Working alongside Youth First for our first ever event has been a privilege and an honor. When we can advertise our stores and highlight the great work of Youth First in our community, it’s a win-win.”   

Eastland Mall’s mission is to provide a safe and enjoyable shopping environment for visitors, employees, and the community, with a focus on supporting local nonprofit organizations. To learn more about Fashion for a Purpose, go to: https://www.shopeastlandmall.com/Events/Details/578236.  

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Beat the Back-to-School Blues

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By Breanna Dudley-Wissel, MSW, LSW – August 7, 2025 –

Sweet summertime. Longed for all school year and mourned when classes start in early August. We all feel it, right? Parents, school personnel, and kids often dread the end of summer.

While some parents may long for school to resume—and for rowdy kids to be back in a routine—the end of those carefree summer days can evoke strong emotions. Educators and students often feel it too, as summer passes in a blink. This article shares more about what the “back-to-school blues” can look like and how to help yourself and your child get past them.

Parents experience everything from relief to frustration to worry. Some parents feel relieved that their child is heading back to school and getting back into a structured routine, but it may also feel bittersweet that their child is growing up, maturing, and moving forward in all areas of life. Some feel frustrated when their child struggles with adjusting to the school routine. Other parents may be worried because their child is having a difficult time with separation anxiety.  

School personnel also experience a range of emotions. They can be eager to decorate their classrooms and reconnect with co-workers they haven’t seen all summer. They may be excited to meet new students and build relationships with them, or maybe anxious and worried about what the coming school year may bring. Teachers may wonder whether their classroom will be well-behaved or difficult to control.  

For some students, the start of the school year may bring sadness. They may feel sad that summer is over, days are shorter, and pools are closing. They may feel sad because their extra time at home, whether it was spent with family, at summer camp, or just sleeping in, is coming to an end. Some may be anxious about meeting their new teacher and worried about who will be in their class. If they are moving to a new school, students may be concerned about what the schedule will be and how to find their classroom. Older students could be experiencing anxiety over figuring out how to work their locker’s combination lock or getting from one class to another before the bell rings.  

All of these feelings are completely normal, so if you or your child experiences them, just know that it is okay! Validate yourself and your child. Reassure yourself and them that everything will be fine and everyone will feel better once the new routine is in place.  

There are some things you can do to help with the adjustment back to school:

  1. Restart a bedtime routine a couple of weeks before school starts. This can also include waking them up at the time they would need to get up to get ready for school.
  2. Attend back-to-school night to help ease your child’s anxiety about finding their classroom and meeting their teacher and classmates. This is also an opportunity for older kids to practice unlocking their combination lock, and you can help them map out a route to get from one class to another. 
     
  3. If your child does not want to get on the bus or out of the car and is experiencing separation anxiety, reassure them that you love them and that you will see them after school. (You could also write a note they can stick in their locker to remind them.)
  1. Help them focus on the positive aspects of their day by asking them what they like about school and what fun memories they made that day. Help them take deep breaths and give them some extra hugs if they need it.  

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