Helping Children Build Motivation: Small Steps Toward Success

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By Hannah Boutkan, MSW, LSW – August 13, 2026 –

Children are born with an innate desire to learn, grow, and explore the world around them. As they get older, however, environmental, social, mental, and emotional factors can affect that motivation, especially when it comes to school and everyday responsibilities. While adults cannot force a child to be motivated, they can create environments that encourage curiosity, confidence, and a willingness to keep trying.

The Harvard Center on the Developing Child offers several strategies to help build motivation, beginning in infancy.

One of the simplest ways to build connection and encourage curiosity is to follow a child’s lead. Take an interest in what captures their attention and encourage them to explore. When children feel supported in their play and discoveries, they learn that their interests and ideas matter. This early curiosity can become the foundation for a lifelong desire to learn.

Another valuable strategy is to encourage unstructured play. When children have opportunities to play without every activity being directed by an adult, they can develop imagination, creativity, problem-solving, and social skills. These skills become important later when children encounter challenging or less-interesting tasks. The ability to think creatively, solve problems, and interact with others can help them remain engaged when things become difficult.

It is also important to make sure expectations are age-appropriate. Think of the Goldilocks principle: a task should not be too hard or too easy — it should be just right. If a child believes a task is impossible, they may quickly become frustrated and give up. On the other hand, a task that is too easy may not provide enough challenge to hold their attention. The right level of challenge allows children to see a task as achievable while still giving them a reason to stay engaged.

Goal setting can also strengthen motivation. Goals give children a sense of purpose and help them understand why their daily responsibilities matter. One approach commonly used in social work is SMART goals: goals that are specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and time-bound. Most importantly, goals should be meaningful to the child. When children have a voice in what they want to accomplish, they are more likely to see the goal as worthwhile and stay motivated to reach it.

Finally, adults should praise the process, not just the outcome. Recognize the small steps a child takes toward success: starting a difficult task, asking for help, practicing a new skill, or trying again after making a mistake. Focusing on effort and progress helps children understand that setbacks do not mean failure. Instead, mistakes become opportunities to learn and try again.

Motivation does not develop overnight. It grows through positive relationships, meaningful challenges, opportunities to explore, and encouragement along the way. By following children’s interests, encouraging play, setting appropriate goals, and celebrating progress, parents and teachers can create supportive environments that help children develop the confidence and motivation they need to succeed in the classroom and beyond.

Hannah Boutkan, MSW, LSW, is a Youth First Mental Health Professional at Holy Rosary Catholic School in Vanderburgh County. Youth First, Inc., is a nonprofit dedicated to strengthening youth and families. Youth First provides over 100 highly trained mental health professionals (primarily master’s level social workers), prevention programs, parent engagement coordinators, and bilingual support personnel to 138 schools across 15 Indiana counties. Over 56,000 youth and families each year are served by Youth First’s school-based social work and community programs that promote mental health, prevent substance misuse, and maximize student success. To learn more about Youth First, visit youthfirstinc.org or call 812-421-8336.

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You Can Help Students Feel Safe During Unpredictable Weather

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By Missy Johnson, MSW, LCSW – August 5, 2026 –

Last spring, as a Youth First Mental Health Professional working in several schools, I received several referrals to support students – of all ages – who felt nervous and worried about storms. Weather events like tornadoes, strong winds, and heavy rain can be very scary for kids, especially after hearing sirens or seeing and hearing about storm damage on the news.

As weather patterns become more unpredictable, damaging tornadoes and other severe storms are an increasing concern in Indiana. According to the Indiana Department of Homeland Security and the National Weather Service, Indiana averages about 22 tornadoes each year and has recorded over 1,500 tornadoes since 1950, resulting in thousands of injuries and many lives lost. This can increase anxiety for youth and their families.

Many students I supported last year shared common anxiety symptoms related to storms, including racing thoughts, fast heartbeat, stomachaches, trouble sleeping, fear of being separated from their families or caregivers, and difficulty focusing. Most students openly shared that they became immediately upset and fearful if they heard storm sirens or even heard someone say the word “tornado.” Even if there was no immediate weather danger, students openly reported that their bodies and minds remained on “high alert” after severe storms caused damage in and around the Tri-State area last year.

These reactions reported by students match what many youth experts describe as anxiety in children, where fear shows up in both the body and the mind. Anxiety related to storms can make some youth feel unsafe when they are away from parents or caregivers. They may need constant reassurance from trusted adults that they are safe.

Weather-related anxiety can also affect students academically. When children are worried about their own safety or that of their loved ones, it becomes harder to pay attention, remember lessons, or complete schoolwork. Some students struggle more on test days or during group activities when storms are predicted. Over time, ongoing stress can interfere with learning and classroom engagement.

Parents and caregivers play an important role in how children react to storms. While adults want to keep kids safe, repeatedly checking the weather on their phones or on the news, talking about worst-case scenarios, or showing visible fear can significantly increase a child’s anxiety. According to research by Katie A. McLaughlin, children tend to feel more distressed when their caregivers also show high levels of worry during or after severe weather events. Adults should keep in mind that children are always watching.

Social media can also raise anxiety. While it is sometimes hard to avoid constant exposure to weather-related alerts or notifications, dramatic images and nonstop coverage can make storms (or threats of potential storms) feel overwhelming. Limiting children’s access to news and offering calm, age-appropriate explanations can help reduce fear.

Another helpful way for families and schools to support students is to have a clear emergency plan for inclement weather and review it regularly. Knowing where to go, what alerts mean, and what steps to follow helps children feel more prepared, in control, and safe.

Creating a safe space for emergencies can also make a big difference. Along with usual safety items like flashlights, a radio, water, and batteries, families can include books, card games, board games, favorite stuffed animals, headphones, and snacks. These comforting items not only distract kids (and adults) but also help calm their bodies and remind them they are safe. Limiting time spent checking weather alerts, along with playing games, listening to music, or reading together, can help make stressful moments during unpredictable weather feel more manageable.

By staying calm, planning, and teaching healthy coping skills, families and schools can help students feel safer, more confident, and ready to learn—even during stormy weather.

Missy Johnson, MSW, LCSW, CTRS, is a Youth First Mental Health Professional at North Posey Jr High and North Posey High School in Posey County. Youth First, Inc., is a nonprofit dedicated to strengthening youth and families. Youth First provides over 100 highly trained mental health professionals (primarily master’s level social workers), prevention programs, parent engagement coordinators, and bilingual support personnel to 130 schools across 15 Indiana counties. Over 55,000 youth and families each year are served by Youth First’s school-based social work and community programs that promote mental health, prevent substance misuse, and maximize student success. To learn more about Youth First, visit youthfirstinc.org or call 812-421-8336.

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Supervising Your Child’s Screen Time

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By Shannon Loehrlein, MSW, LCSW – July 29, 2026 –

Many of us remember the days when we spent hours playing outside and didn’t come home until dinner. We had the freedom to explore our neighborhoods, make friends, and solve problems on our own. Today, many parents understandably hesitate to give their children that same freedom. Ironically, however, many children are given unrestricted access to something far more dangerous: the online world.

Most middle and high school students now have smartphones or school-issued computers that provide around-the-clock internet access. According to the Kaiser Family Foundation, children ages 8–18 spend an average of 7.5 hours each day on screens. Research from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) links excessive recreational screen time to higher rates of obesity, anxiety, depression, poor sleep, and reduced social support. National Public Radio (NPR) has also reported on research connecting excessive screen use with an increased risk of suicidal thoughts and behaviors among teens.

I have worked as a middle school social worker for seven years, and I have witnessed a troubling rise in depression, anxiety, self-harm, suicidal thoughts, and unhealthy dependence on phones. While many factors contribute to these challenges, excessive screen use appears to play a significant role. I also see firsthand the harmful content students encounter online, including cyberbullying, sexually explicit material, and contact from online predators.

Our school district uses software that monitors school-issued devices for concerning activity. We have received alerts after midnight showing students discussing self-harm and suicide on their school computers. In some cases, students have encouraged one another to take their own lives or shared advice about cutting and other forms of self-injury. I have personally reviewed these alerts. They are a sobering reminder that the dangers young people face online do not end when the school day is over.

As parents, we need to take a more active role in supervising our children’s technology use. Most parents would never allow their child to visit a stranger’s house alone late at night, yet many unknowingly allow unrestricted access to devices that can connect them with strangers at any hour. Without healthy boundaries and safeguards, children can be exposed to serious risks.

Our family has established simple rules that have worked well. Our kids charge their devices in our bedroom each night, and school-issued computers stay downstairs and are used only for schoolwork. These boundaries eliminate late-night online activity and create opportunities for healthier routines.

I also encourage parents to delay social media use until high school whenever possible. In my experience, many middle school students lack the emotional maturity to navigate social media responsibly. I frequently see young adolescents struggling with low self-esteem, loneliness, anxiety, depression, and self-harm that are intensified by online interactions. My own middle school daughter has a phone, but she does not have social media, and apps on her phone can only be downloaded with parental approval.

Finally, I believe schools should consider returning to a model in which students complete their work during the school day and leave school devices in the classroom. Educators already spend significant time redirecting students away from games, YouTube, and messaging during class. Based on my experience, reducing screen time—both at school and at home—would improve students’ learning, mental health, and overall well-being.

Shannon Loehrlein, MSW, LCSW, is a Youth First Mental Health Professional at Thompkins Middle School in Vanderburgh County. Youth First, Inc., is a nonprofit dedicated to strengthening youth and families. Youth First provides over 100 highly trained mental health professionals (primarily master’s level social workers), prevention programs, parent engagement coordinators, and bilingual support personnel to 130 schools across 14 Indiana counties. Over 55,000 youth and families each year are served by Youth First’s school-based social work and community programs that promote mental health, prevent substance misuse, and maximize student success. To learn more about Youth First, visit youthfirstinc.org or call 812-421-8336.

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Youth First to Honor Carol Lynch as 2026 Dr. William Wooten Champion

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EVANSVILLE, Ind. — Long-time Youth First advocate Carol Lynch has been selected to receive the 2026 Dr. William Wooten Champion of Youth First Award. Lynch will be recognized at Youth First’s Annual Breakfast of Champions event, presented by German American Bank, on October 27, 2026, at Friedman Park Events Center in Newburgh. Named in honor of Youth First’s founder Dr. William Wooten, the Champion of Youth First Award recognizes leading advocates whose generosity and commitment to Youth First’s mission have made a lasting impact on the organization and the lives of countless young people.
A former educator and founding board member, Carol Lynch has been a steadfast supporter of Youth First for 29 years, championing the organization’s efforts to expand access to free, effective prevention programming and mental health services. Through her dedication to helping young people elevate their potential by equipping them with coping skills, Lynch has advanced Youth First’s presence and impact in Southwest Indiana.
“Carol has been an extraordinary force throughout Youth First’s history,” said Youth First President & CEO Holli Sullivan, “Her belief in the power of the next generation of leaders inspires us to invest in opportunities that make a proven difference in young lives. We are honored to recognize Carol and are deeply grateful to German American Bank for serving as our presenting sponsor and investing in stronger futures for our communities.”
The Breakfast of Champions is a signature Youth First event that celebrates collaboration between community leaders, partners, and supporters. For information about attending or sponsoring the Breakfast of Champions, visit youthfirstinc.org/breakfastofchampions or contact Youth First Events & Volunteer Coordinator, Amanda Redenbaugh at aredenbaugh@youthfirstinc.org.
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How to Help Your Kids Make Good Decisions

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By Christine Weinzapfel-Hayden, MSW, LCSW – July 22, 2026 –

Guiding children to make good decisions is one of a parent’s most important responsibilities. Children are constantly faced with choices, big and small, that shape their character, habits, and future. The ability to make sound decisions will serve them throughout life, from deciding how to spend their free time to choosing friends and handling peer pressure. While children must learn through their own experiences, parents play a crucial role in teaching them the skills and values that enable them to make wise choices.

How can parents help their children learn to make good decisions? First, modeling good decision-making skills is one of the most powerful ways to teach children. Children pay close attention to their parents’ actions, often more than to the words they hear. When parents weigh options carefully, consider consequences, and demonstrate self-control, they provide a living example for their children to follow.

For instance, explaining why you choose to save money rather than making impulsive purchases helps your child see that thoughtful decisions often lead to long-term rewards. By being transparent about your decision-making process, you show your child how to think through decisions rather than acting on impulse.

Second, parents can help children by encouraging them to think critically. Instead of simply giving them answers, ask guiding questions that push them to consider the outcomes of their choices. For example, if a child is weighing whether to complete homework or play video games, you might ask, “What might happen if you don’t finish your homework tonight?” This approach allows children to weigh consequences themselves, rather than always relying on parental instruction. Over time, this practice builds independence and confidence in their decision-making abilities.

Another important step is teaching children values and principles early. Children who have a strong foundation of honesty, responsibility, kindness, and respect are better equipped to make ethical choices. Parents can reinforce these values through conversations, stories, and real-life examples. When kids understand why certain behaviors are right or wrong, they are more likely to make good decisions consistent with those principles, even when no one is watching.

It is also helpful to provide opportunities for children to practice decision-making in a safe environment. Allowing them to choose their clothing, plan family activities, or budget their allowance gives them a sense of responsibility. Even if their choices are not always perfect, these experiences teach valuable lessons. When mistakes occur, parents should respond with patience and guidance rather than harsh criticism. Discussing what went wrong and how to make a better choice next time turns mistakes into learning opportunities.

Finally, maintaining open communication is key. Children need to feel comfortable sharing their thoughts, struggles, and questions without fear of judgment. When parents listen attentively and offer support, kids are more likely to seek advice before making difficult decisions. Creating an environment of trust ensures that children know they are not alone when facing challenges.
Helping children make good decisions is not about controlling every choice they make but about equipping them with the tools, values, and confidence to choose wisely on their own. By modeling good behavior, encouraging critical thinking, teaching values, offering practice, and maintaining open communication, parents can prepare their children to navigate life’s challenges with wisdom and integrity. Good decision-making is a skill, and with guidance and love, children can grow into thoughtful and responsible adults.

Christine Weinzapfel-Hayden, MSW, LCSW, is a Youth First Mental Health Professional at Corpus Christi Catholic School in Vanderburgh County and St. Philip Catholic School in Posey County. Youth First, Inc., is a nonprofit dedicated to strengthening youth and families. Youth First provides over 100 highly trained mental health professionals (primarily master’s level social workers), prevention programs, parent engagement coordinators, and bilingual support personnel to 130 schools across 14 Indiana counties. Over 55,000 youth and families each year are served by Youth First’s school-based social work and community programs that promote mental health, prevent substance misuse, and maximize student success. To learn more about Youth First, visit youthfirstinc.org or call 812-421-8336.

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Youth First Receives $40,000 Award from CenterPoint Energy Foundation

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EVANSVILLE, IN – Youth First is celebrating CenterPoint Energy Foundation for investing in Indiana youth. The organization recently awarded $40,000 to Youth First, Inc. to strengthen the mental health and well-being of students at 12 Youth First partner schools in Vanderburgh County.

This significant gift from CenterPoint Energy Foundation, along with funding from other sources, will enable Youth First to provide its school-based student assistance program and family and community prevention programs at Academy for Innovative Studies, Central High School, Daniel Wertz Elementary School, Dexter Elementary School, Fairlawn Elementary School, Harrison High School, McGary Middle School, New Tech Institute, North High School, FJ Reitz High School, Tekoppel Elementary School, and Washington Middle School.

Amanda Schmitt, CenterPoint Foundation Manager, says: “This gift is part of our commitment to seeing communities thrive and seeing students reach their potential. We are so honored to partner with organizations like Youth First to ensure the success of all our students — regardless of the challenges they may face.”

Youth First offers an array of prevention programs and mental health services to help with emotional, behavioral, and academic issues that youth, families, and communities may be experiencing in today’s world. The organization embeds highly trained mental health professionals in school buildings, partnering with 130 schools across 14 Indiana counties.

Youth First President & CEO Holli Sullivan shared, “Young people are navigating increasingly complex challenges in today’s world. That’s why accessible support and early prevention are more important than ever. Youth First provides core services and programs in schools and communities that elevate student potential and better prepare youth to face life’s challenges, lead productive lives, and be an active part of a thriving community. We are grateful for our partnership with CenterPoint Energy Foundation, allowing us to strengthen futures for kids and families.”
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About Youth First, Inc.:
Youth First, Inc. is a nonprofit dedicated to strengthening youth and families. Youth First provides prevention programs and over 100 highly trained mental health professionals (primarily master’s level social workers), parent engagement coordinators, and bilingual support personnel who assess needs, develop and implement prevention plans, and connect students and their families to vital resources in 130 schools across 14 Indiana counties. Over 55,000 youth and families per year are served by Youth First’s school-based student assistance program and community programs that promote mental health, prevent substance misuse, and maximize student success. To learn more about Youth First, visit youthfirstinc.org or call 812-421-8336.

Pictured in photo (L to R):
Courtney Lander, Foundation Specialist, CenterPoint Energy
Amanda Schmitt, Manager, Foundation and Community Relations North, CenterPoint Energy
Christy Walker, Vice President of Development, Youth First, Inc.
Taylor Houchin, Director of Development, Youth First, Inc.

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Establishing a Smooth Transition from Home to School

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By Lisa Glahn, MSW, LCSW – July 15, 2026 –

Returning to school after a break can be challenging for many children, especially after extended time away during summer or winter breaks. Typically, the longer students are out of their routine, the more challenging it can be to adjust to early mornings, structured schedules, and classroom expectations. Fortunately, there are several simple strategies parents and guardians can use to make this transition smoother and create a more positive start to each school day.

One of the most effective ways to support a successful return to school is by establishing a consistent morning routine. Predictable schedules help children feel prepared, reduce stress, and encourage independence. Creating a visual schedule with pictures or simple words can be especially helpful for younger children or those who benefit from visual reminders. As children practice the same routine each morning, they become more confident and develop healthy habits that make getting ready for school easier.

Waking up with enough time to prepare for the day is another important part of a successful morning. Oversleeping often leads to feeling rushed, which can increase stress for both children and parents. When mornings are hurried, children may skip breakfast, forget homework or school supplies, or arrive at school feeling anxious. Allowing extra time to wake up, eat a healthy breakfast, and get organized helps create a calm environment that sets the stage for a positive school day.

A special goodbye ritual can also make school drop-offs easier. Whether it is a hug, a high-five, a secret handshake, or a simple phrase shared each morning, a consistent goodbye routine provides reassurance and strengthens the connection between a child and their parent or guardian. These small moments can help children feel loved, supported, and ready to begin their day with confidence.

Talking with your child about the upcoming school day is another helpful strategy. Discussing what they can expect allows them to ask questions, voice concerns, and share any worries they may have. These conversations allow parents to offer encouragement and problem-solving while helping children feel more prepared for the day ahead.

Positive reinforcement can also encourage a smoother transition back to school. Simple reward systems, such as sticker charts or earning small privileges, can motivate children to complete their morning routine and enter the school building with confidence. Celebrating progress, even in small ways, reinforces positive behaviors and builds motivation over time.

For some children, bringing a comfort item can provide an added sense of security. Before sending an item to school, it is helpful to check with the teacher about classroom expectations. While stuffed animals or blankets may stay in the car, a family photo tucked into a backpack, folder, or locker can offer comfort throughout the day. Including these comforting items as part of the morning routine can help ease separation anxiety.

Finally, never underestimate the power of encouragement. Offering positive affirmations, praising your child’s efforts, and reminding them that you believe in their abilities can boost confidence and self-esteem. Even a short note tucked into a lunchbox or backpack can provide reassurance and brighten their day. With patience, consistency, and support, families can help children return to school feeling confident, prepared, and excited to learn.

Lisa Glahn, MSW, LCSW, is a Youth First Mental Health Professional at St. John the Baptist Catholic School in Warrick County and St. Bernard Catholic School in Spencer County. Youth First, Inc., is a nonprofit dedicated to strengthening youth and families. Youth First provides over 100 highly trained mental health professionals (primarily master’s level social workers), prevention programs, parent engagement coordinators, and bilingual support personnel to 130 schools across 14 Indiana counties. Over 55,000 youth and families each year are served by Youth First’s school-based social work and community programs that promote mental health, prevent substance misuse, and maximize student success. To learn more about Youth First, visit youthfirstinc.org or call 812-421-8336.

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Promoting Patience in a Fast-Moving World

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By Emily Bernhardt, MSW, LCSW – July 8, 2026 –

Patience is a virtue. Good things come to those who wait. There are so many phrases we have heard time and time again that emphasize the importance of patience. Yet, even if we agree that being patient is important, it can be so hard to practice.

For a long time, I thought patience was a personality trait you were born with, like how some people are born funny or athletic. However, I have realized that patience can be learned, and though it may be hard, some practices help strengthen our ability to be patient.

Why should we make the change? You may be thinking, “I’m 40 years old – why should I make this change now after all this time?” Of course, being patient helps us strengthen and maintain our relationships, but it also offers health benefits. Patience supports our mental health and well-being; it helps us reach personal goals, is linked to hopefulness and positive outlooks, and is also associated with better outcomes. People who are patient report fewer health problems such as headaches, acne, ulcers, diarrhea, and pneumonia. Sign me up!

So now you may be thinking, “Okay fine, that sounds great, but how? I’ve tried being patient, and it just doesn’t come naturally to me.” There are many ways to practice patience and improve. Give yourself time and grace, because like any skill, it takes time. No one would expect to become a basketball star overnight, and learning a new skill such as patience is no different. It may take time, but it is possible.

One skill that you can incorporate to practice patience is mindfulness. Mindfulness is staying in the present moment. Think of it like “mind full” vs. mindful. When our mind is full of overwhelming thoughts or a checklist of future things we need to do, it is harder to stay patient in the present moment. Some examples of mindfulness include taking time for meditation, keeping a journal, or practicing breathing techniques.

Another skill that is helpful when our patience is thin is acknowledging what we can and cannot control. If your house is messy and there’s a long list of things adding to your stress, sit down and find time to knock things out on the to-do list. That is something in your control. However, if you have errands to run and you know there’s going to be a long line at the grocery store or heavy traffic to drive through—that’s not in your control. Sometimes just recognizing what is out of our control shifts our mindset. And is there a way you can put a positive spin on those situations? Try listening to a positive podcast or uplifting music while you wait.

Here is one last skill that will help build your tolerance for life’s setbacks. If you can practice patience with smaller setbacks that come your way, you will be able to handle the bigger ones much more easily. It’s okay to slow down in general, which can help you stay patient in other situations. Small ways you can practice include letting a car go in front of you in traffic, letting people get in front of you in line, trying a new hobby that promotes patience (like knitting), and ignoring notifications on your phone for at least a few minutes.

Like all skills, learning patience takes time. However, the more we incorporate it into the small moments of everyday life, the more likely we will be to reach for that skill in the bigger moments. Not only will it benefit your mental and physical health, but it is also important to model this skill for our children and other important relationships around us. When our children see us keep our cool in a stressful situation, we show them that this is possible for them too.

Emily Bernhardt, MSW, LCSW, is a Youth First Mental Health Professional at Signature School in Vanderburgh County. Youth First, Inc., is a nonprofit dedicated to strengthening youth and families. Youth First provides over 100 highly trained mental health professionals (primarily master’s level social workers), prevention programs, parent engagement coordinators, and bilingual support personnel to 130 schools across 14 Indiana counties. Over 55,000 youth and families each year are served by Youth First’s school-based social work and community programs that promote mental health, prevent substance misuse, and maximize student success. To learn more about Youth First, visit youthfirstinc.org or call 812-421-8336.

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Building Self-Esteem in Children: A Foundation for Lifelong Success

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By Ashley Lingafelter, MSW, LSW – July 1, 2026 –

Research indicates that nearly 40% of children experience feelings of inadequacy, which can severely hinder their emotional and social development. These statistics underline an alarming reality: low self-esteem in children is linked to a host of negative outcomes, including poor academic performance, mental health issues, and difficulties forming healthy relationships.

However, children with positive self-esteem are more likely to embrace challenges, engage in social settings, and develop resilience. As such, fostering self-esteem in children is not a mere parental preference; it is an essential investment in their future.

Positive self-esteem serves as the foundation for children’s identities. It allows them to navigate life’s challenges with confidence and fosters a sense of belonging, acceptance, and security. Children who see themselves positively are more likely to engage in behaviors that promote growth, such as trying out for a school play or joining a sports team. Self-esteem also becomes a protective factor that shields children from the adverse effects of peer pressure and bullying, ultimately leading to healthier emotional regulation and mental well-being.

Self-esteem in children emerges at an early age and is influenced by various factors, including family dynamics, social interactions, and individual experiences. As children grow, they internalize feedback from their environment, particularly from their parents and caregivers. Therefore, the role of parents in nurturing self-esteem cannot be overlooked. It is a delicate balance of offering support while allowing children to learn and grow independently. Parents who emphasize their children’s strengths, celebrate their achievements, and provide constructive feedback create an environment conducive to healthy self-esteem development.

To aid in building a child’s self-esteem, parents can adopt several effective strategies:

1. Encourage Open Communication: Parents should create a safe space for children to express their thoughts and feelings. Encouraging open dialogue fosters emotional intelligence and helps children articulate their concerns.

2. Promote Independence: Allowing children to make choices fosters a sense of autonomy. Even small decisions, like selecting their outfit for the day or choosing an afternoon activity, can empower children and enhance their confidence.

3. Celebrate Efforts, Not Just Results: Parents should recognize the effort their children put into tasks, not just the outcome. This approach instills a growth mindset, teaching children that persistence is valuable even in the face of setbacks.

4. Set Realistic Expectations: While it is natural for parents to want their children to succeed, setting unattainable expectations can lead to feelings of inadequacy. It is crucial to set goals that are challenging yet achievable, allowing children to feel a sense of accomplishment.

5. Model Positive Self-Talk: This is arguably the most important and impactful tip. Children learn by observing adults. Parents should exemplify healthy self-esteem by practicing positive self-talk and demonstrating self-compassion in the face of their own challenges.

In conclusion, nurturing self-esteem is fundamental to a child’s emotional, social, and academic development. By recognizing the significance of their role, parents can utilize practical strategies that empower their children, laying the groundwork for a confident and resilient adult life. Building self-esteem is an investment in a child’s future—one that can lead to lifelong happiness and success.

Ashley Lingafelter, MSW, LSW, is a Youth First Mental Health Professional at North Elementary School in Posey County. Youth First, Inc., is a nonprofit dedicated to strengthening youth and families. Youth First provides over 100 highly trained mental health professionals (primarily master’s level social workers), prevention programs, parent engagement coordinators, and bilingual support personnel to 130 schools across 14 Indiana counties. Over 55,000 youth and families each year are served by Youth First’s school-based social work and community programs that promote mental health, prevent substance misuse, and maximize student success. To learn more about Youth First, visit youthfirstinc.org or call 812-421-8336.

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Prepare Your Child for Kindergarten this Summer

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By Tiffany Austin, MSW, LSW – June 24, 2026 –

Summer always seems to fly by. Before long, August arrives and a new school year begins. For incoming kindergarteners and their families, this milestone can bring a mix of excitement and nervousness. While children may look forward to new experiences, parents and caregivers often wonder how to best prepare them for this important transition.

The following are five ways families can help children prepare for kindergarten this summer:

  1. Maintain a Regular Schedule. The school day is very structured, with set time frames for different subjects, activities and events. Adjusting to this level of routine can be challenging for some children. Establishing a consistent daily schedule at home can help children become more comfortable with routines and expectations. While a home schedule may not mirror the school day exactly, it can reinforce the idea that specific times are set aside for specific activities and responsibilities.
  2. Encourage Independence. Children at this age take great pride in completing tasks on their own. Encouraging independence through everyday tasks can build self-confidence and help children feel prepared for kindergarten. Practice skills such as putting on shoes, zipping jackets, packing a backpack, and opening lunch items. Creating a simple checklist for leaving the house can also help children develop self-help skills. Tasks might include using the restroom, putting on shoes, fastening a seatbelt, and gathering belongings.
  3. Read Books about Kindergarten. Reading books about starting kindergarten is a great way to prepare children for this new experience. Many books explore common feelings associated with the first day of school, including excitement, curiosity, and nervousness. These stories help children understand that their emotions are normal and shared by others. Reading together also creates opportunities for parents/caregivers to answer questions, discuss concerns, and introduce healthy coping strategies. These conversations can help ease anxiety and build confidence before school begins.
  4. Focus on Social Skills. Kindergarten requires children to interact with peers, follow group expectations, and build new relationships. Providing opportunities for your child to play with others can help strengthen important social skills. Whether through playdates, family gatherings, community activities, or visits to the park, children can practice sharing, taking turns, cooperating, resolving conflicts, and using good manners. These experiences help children gain confidence in social settings and prepare them for success in the classroom.
  5. Practice the School Morning Routine. A few weeks before school starts, begin practicing the morning routine your child will follow during the school year. Gradually adjust bedtimes and wake-up times to align with the school schedule. It can also be helpful to familiarize your child with the trip to school by driving the route and pointing out where they will enter the building. Practicing these routines ahead of time can reduce anxiety and help children feel more comfortable on the first day.

Kindergarten is an exciting milestone filled with opportunities for learning, growth, and new friendships. By taking time to practice these five strategies, families can help children approach the first day with greater confidence and enthusiasm. While some nervousness is natural, preparation can make the transition smoother for both children and parents/caregivers. If you have concerns about your child’s adjustment to school, please reach out to your school’s Youth First Mental Health Professional or school counselor for support and guidance.

Tiffany Austin, MSW, LSW, is a Youth First Mental Health Professional at Glenwood Leadership Academy in Vanderburgh County. Youth First, Inc., is a nonprofit dedicated to strengthening youth and families. Youth First provides over 100 highly trained mental health professionals (primarily master’s level social workers), prevention programs, parent engagement coordinators, and bilingual support personnel to 130 schools across 14 Indiana counties. Over 55,000 youth and families each year are served by Youth First’s school-based social work and community programs that promote mental health, prevent substance misuse, and maximize student success. To learn more about Youth First, visit youthfirstinc.org or call 812-421-8336.

 

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