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How to Help Your Kids Make Good Decisions

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By Christine Weinzapfel-Hayden, MSW, LCSW – July 22, 2026 –

Guiding children to make good decisions is one of a parent’s most important responsibilities. Children are constantly faced with choices, big and small, that shape their character, habits, and future. The ability to make sound decisions will serve them throughout life, from deciding how to spend their free time to choosing friends and handling peer pressure. While children must learn through their own experiences, parents play a crucial role in teaching them the skills and values that enable them to make wise choices.

How can parents help their children learn to make good decisions? First, modeling good decision-making skills is one of the most powerful ways to teach children. Children pay close attention to their parents’ actions, often more than to the words they hear. When parents weigh options carefully, consider consequences, and demonstrate self-control, they provide a living example for their children to follow.

For instance, explaining why you choose to save money rather than making impulsive purchases helps your child see that thoughtful decisions often lead to long-term rewards. By being transparent about your decision-making process, you show your child how to think through decisions rather than acting on impulse.

Second, parents can help children by encouraging them to think critically. Instead of simply giving them answers, ask guiding questions that push them to consider the outcomes of their choices. For example, if a child is weighing whether to complete homework or play video games, you might ask, “What might happen if you don’t finish your homework tonight?” This approach allows children to weigh consequences themselves, rather than always relying on parental instruction. Over time, this practice builds independence and confidence in their decision-making abilities.

Another important step is teaching children values and principles early. Children who have a strong foundation of honesty, responsibility, kindness, and respect are better equipped to make ethical choices. Parents can reinforce these values through conversations, stories, and real-life examples. When kids understand why certain behaviors are right or wrong, they are more likely to make good decisions consistent with those principles, even when no one is watching.

It is also helpful to provide opportunities for children to practice decision-making in a safe environment. Allowing them to choose their clothing, plan family activities, or budget their allowance gives them a sense of responsibility. Even if their choices are not always perfect, these experiences teach valuable lessons. When mistakes occur, parents should respond with patience and guidance rather than harsh criticism. Discussing what went wrong and how to make a better choice next time turns mistakes into learning opportunities.

Finally, maintaining open communication is key. Children need to feel comfortable sharing their thoughts, struggles, and questions without fear of judgment. When parents listen attentively and offer support, kids are more likely to seek advice before making difficult decisions. Creating an environment of trust ensures that children know they are not alone when facing challenges.
Helping children make good decisions is not about controlling every choice they make but about equipping them with the tools, values, and confidence to choose wisely on their own. By modeling good behavior, encouraging critical thinking, teaching values, offering practice, and maintaining open communication, parents can prepare their children to navigate life’s challenges with wisdom and integrity. Good decision-making is a skill, and with guidance and love, children can grow into thoughtful and responsible adults.

Christine Weinzapfel-Hayden, MSW, LCSW, is a Youth First Mental Health Professional at Corpus Christi Catholic School in Vanderburgh County and St. Philip Catholic School in Posey County. Youth First, Inc., is a nonprofit dedicated to strengthening youth and families. Youth First provides over 100 highly trained mental health professionals (primarily master’s level social workers), prevention programs, parent engagement coordinators, and bilingual support personnel to 130 schools across 14 Indiana counties. Over 55,000 youth and families each year are served by Youth First’s school-based social work and community programs that promote mental health, prevent substance misuse, and maximize student success. To learn more about Youth First, visit youthfirstinc.org or call 812-421-8336.

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Establishing a Smooth Transition from Home to School

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By Lisa Glahn, MSW, LCSW – July 15, 2026 –

Returning to school after a break can be challenging for many children, especially after extended time away during summer or winter breaks. Typically, the longer students are out of their routine, the more challenging it can be to adjust to early mornings, structured schedules, and classroom expectations. Fortunately, there are several simple strategies parents and guardians can use to make this transition smoother and create a more positive start to each school day.

One of the most effective ways to support a successful return to school is by establishing a consistent morning routine. Predictable schedules help children feel prepared, reduce stress, and encourage independence. Creating a visual schedule with pictures or simple words can be especially helpful for younger children or those who benefit from visual reminders. As children practice the same routine each morning, they become more confident and develop healthy habits that make getting ready for school easier.

Waking up with enough time to prepare for the day is another important part of a successful morning. Oversleeping often leads to feeling rushed, which can increase stress for both children and parents. When mornings are hurried, children may skip breakfast, forget homework or school supplies, or arrive at school feeling anxious. Allowing extra time to wake up, eat a healthy breakfast, and get organized helps create a calm environment that sets the stage for a positive school day.

A special goodbye ritual can also make school drop-offs easier. Whether it is a hug, a high-five, a secret handshake, or a simple phrase shared each morning, a consistent goodbye routine provides reassurance and strengthens the connection between a child and their parent or guardian. These small moments can help children feel loved, supported, and ready to begin their day with confidence.

Talking with your child about the upcoming school day is another helpful strategy. Discussing what they can expect allows them to ask questions, voice concerns, and share any worries they may have. These conversations allow parents to offer encouragement and problem-solving while helping children feel more prepared for the day ahead.

Positive reinforcement can also encourage a smoother transition back to school. Simple reward systems, such as sticker charts or earning small privileges, can motivate children to complete their morning routine and enter the school building with confidence. Celebrating progress, even in small ways, reinforces positive behaviors and builds motivation over time.

For some children, bringing a comfort item can provide an added sense of security. Before sending an item to school, it is helpful to check with the teacher about classroom expectations. While stuffed animals or blankets may stay in the car, a family photo tucked into a backpack, folder, or locker can offer comfort throughout the day. Including these comforting items as part of the morning routine can help ease separation anxiety.

Finally, never underestimate the power of encouragement. Offering positive affirmations, praising your child’s efforts, and reminding them that you believe in their abilities can boost confidence and self-esteem. Even a short note tucked into a lunchbox or backpack can provide reassurance and brighten their day. With patience, consistency, and support, families can help children return to school feeling confident, prepared, and excited to learn.

Lisa Glahn, MSW, LCSW, is a Youth First Mental Health Professional at St. John the Baptist Catholic School in Warrick County and St. Bernard Catholic School in Spencer County. Youth First, Inc., is a nonprofit dedicated to strengthening youth and families. Youth First provides over 100 highly trained mental health professionals (primarily master’s level social workers), prevention programs, parent engagement coordinators, and bilingual support personnel to 130 schools across 14 Indiana counties. Over 55,000 youth and families each year are served by Youth First’s school-based social work and community programs that promote mental health, prevent substance misuse, and maximize student success. To learn more about Youth First, visit youthfirstinc.org or call 812-421-8336.

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Promoting Patience in a Fast-Moving World

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By Emily Bernhardt, MSW, LCSW – July 8, 2026 –

Patience is a virtue. Good things come to those who wait. There are so many phrases we have heard time and time again that emphasize the importance of patience. Yet, even if we agree that being patient is important, it can be so hard to practice.

For a long time, I thought patience was a personality trait you were born with, like how some people are born funny or athletic. However, I have realized that patience can be learned, and though it may be hard, some practices help strengthen our ability to be patient.

Why should we make the change? You may be thinking, “I’m 40 years old – why should I make this change now after all this time?” Of course, being patient helps us strengthen and maintain our relationships, but it also offers health benefits. Patience supports our mental health and well-being; it helps us reach personal goals, is linked to hopefulness and positive outlooks, and is also associated with better outcomes. People who are patient report fewer health problems such as headaches, acne, ulcers, diarrhea, and pneumonia. Sign me up!

So now you may be thinking, “Okay fine, that sounds great, but how? I’ve tried being patient, and it just doesn’t come naturally to me.” There are many ways to practice patience and improve. Give yourself time and grace, because like any skill, it takes time. No one would expect to become a basketball star overnight, and learning a new skill such as patience is no different. It may take time, but it is possible.

One skill that you can incorporate to practice patience is mindfulness. Mindfulness is staying in the present moment. Think of it like “mind full” vs. mindful. When our mind is full of overwhelming thoughts or a checklist of future things we need to do, it is harder to stay patient in the present moment. Some examples of mindfulness include taking time for meditation, keeping a journal, or practicing breathing techniques.

Another skill that is helpful when our patience is thin is acknowledging what we can and cannot control. If your house is messy and there’s a long list of things adding to your stress, sit down and find time to knock things out on the to-do list. That is something in your control. However, if you have errands to run and you know there’s going to be a long line at the grocery store or heavy traffic to drive through—that’s not in your control. Sometimes just recognizing what is out of our control shifts our mindset. And is there a way you can put a positive spin on those situations? Try listening to a positive podcast or uplifting music while you wait.

Here is one last skill that will help build your tolerance for life’s setbacks. If you can practice patience with smaller setbacks that come your way, you will be able to handle the bigger ones much more easily. It’s okay to slow down in general, which can help you stay patient in other situations. Small ways you can practice include letting a car go in front of you in traffic, letting people get in front of you in line, trying a new hobby that promotes patience (like knitting), and ignoring notifications on your phone for at least a few minutes.

Like all skills, learning patience takes time. However, the more we incorporate it into the small moments of everyday life, the more likely we will be to reach for that skill in the bigger moments. Not only will it benefit your mental and physical health, but it is also important to model this skill for our children and other important relationships around us. When our children see us keep our cool in a stressful situation, we show them that this is possible for them too.

Emily Bernhardt, MSW, LCSW, is a Youth First Mental Health Professional at Signature School in Vanderburgh County. Youth First, Inc., is a nonprofit dedicated to strengthening youth and families. Youth First provides over 100 highly trained mental health professionals (primarily master’s level social workers), prevention programs, parent engagement coordinators, and bilingual support personnel to 130 schools across 14 Indiana counties. Over 55,000 youth and families each year are served by Youth First’s school-based social work and community programs that promote mental health, prevent substance misuse, and maximize student success. To learn more about Youth First, visit youthfirstinc.org or call 812-421-8336.

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Building Self-Esteem in Children: A Foundation for Lifelong Success

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By Ashley Lingafelter, MSW, LSW – July 1, 2026 –

Research indicates that nearly 40% of children experience feelings of inadequacy, which can severely hinder their emotional and social development. These statistics underline an alarming reality: low self-esteem in children is linked to a host of negative outcomes, including poor academic performance, mental health issues, and difficulties forming healthy relationships.

However, children with positive self-esteem are more likely to embrace challenges, engage in social settings, and develop resilience. As such, fostering self-esteem in children is not a mere parental preference; it is an essential investment in their future.

Positive self-esteem serves as the foundation for children’s identities. It allows them to navigate life’s challenges with confidence and fosters a sense of belonging, acceptance, and security. Children who see themselves positively are more likely to engage in behaviors that promote growth, such as trying out for a school play or joining a sports team. Self-esteem also becomes a protective factor that shields children from the adverse effects of peer pressure and bullying, ultimately leading to healthier emotional regulation and mental well-being.

Self-esteem in children emerges at an early age and is influenced by various factors, including family dynamics, social interactions, and individual experiences. As children grow, they internalize feedback from their environment, particularly from their parents and caregivers. Therefore, the role of parents in nurturing self-esteem cannot be overlooked. It is a delicate balance of offering support while allowing children to learn and grow independently. Parents who emphasize their children’s strengths, celebrate their achievements, and provide constructive feedback create an environment conducive to healthy self-esteem development.

To aid in building a child’s self-esteem, parents can adopt several effective strategies:

1. Encourage Open Communication: Parents should create a safe space for children to express their thoughts and feelings. Encouraging open dialogue fosters emotional intelligence and helps children articulate their concerns.

2. Promote Independence: Allowing children to make choices fosters a sense of autonomy. Even small decisions, like selecting their outfit for the day or choosing an afternoon activity, can empower children and enhance their confidence.

3. Celebrate Efforts, Not Just Results: Parents should recognize the effort their children put into tasks, not just the outcome. This approach instills a growth mindset, teaching children that persistence is valuable even in the face of setbacks.

4. Set Realistic Expectations: While it is natural for parents to want their children to succeed, setting unattainable expectations can lead to feelings of inadequacy. It is crucial to set goals that are challenging yet achievable, allowing children to feel a sense of accomplishment.

5. Model Positive Self-Talk: This is arguably the most important and impactful tip. Children learn by observing adults. Parents should exemplify healthy self-esteem by practicing positive self-talk and demonstrating self-compassion in the face of their own challenges.

In conclusion, nurturing self-esteem is fundamental to a child’s emotional, social, and academic development. By recognizing the significance of their role, parents can utilize practical strategies that empower their children, laying the groundwork for a confident and resilient adult life. Building self-esteem is an investment in a child’s future—one that can lead to lifelong happiness and success.

Ashley Lingafelter, MSW, LSW, is a Youth First Mental Health Professional at North Elementary School in Posey County. Youth First, Inc., is a nonprofit dedicated to strengthening youth and families. Youth First provides over 100 highly trained mental health professionals (primarily master’s level social workers), prevention programs, parent engagement coordinators, and bilingual support personnel to 130 schools across 14 Indiana counties. Over 55,000 youth and families each year are served by Youth First’s school-based social work and community programs that promote mental health, prevent substance misuse, and maximize student success. To learn more about Youth First, visit youthfirstinc.org or call 812-421-8336.

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Prepare Your Child for Kindergarten this Summer

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By Tiffany Austin, MSW, LSW – June 24, 2026 –

Summer always seems to fly by. Before long, August arrives and a new school year begins. For incoming kindergarteners and their families, this milestone can bring a mix of excitement and nervousness. While children may look forward to new experiences, parents and caregivers often wonder how to best prepare them for this important transition.

The following are five ways families can help children prepare for kindergarten this summer:

  1. Maintain a Regular Schedule. The school day is very structured, with set time frames for different subjects, activities and events. Adjusting to this level of routine can be challenging for some children. Establishing a consistent daily schedule at home can help children become more comfortable with routines and expectations. While a home schedule may not mirror the school day exactly, it can reinforce the idea that specific times are set aside for specific activities and responsibilities.
  2. Encourage Independence. Children at this age take great pride in completing tasks on their own. Encouraging independence through everyday tasks can build self-confidence and help children feel prepared for kindergarten. Practice skills such as putting on shoes, zipping jackets, packing a backpack, and opening lunch items. Creating a simple checklist for leaving the house can also help children develop self-help skills. Tasks might include using the restroom, putting on shoes, fastening a seatbelt, and gathering belongings.
  3. Read Books about Kindergarten. Reading books about starting kindergarten is a great way to prepare children for this new experience. Many books explore common feelings associated with the first day of school, including excitement, curiosity, and nervousness. These stories help children understand that their emotions are normal and shared by others. Reading together also creates opportunities for parents/caregivers to answer questions, discuss concerns, and introduce healthy coping strategies. These conversations can help ease anxiety and build confidence before school begins.
  4. Focus on Social Skills. Kindergarten requires children to interact with peers, follow group expectations, and build new relationships. Providing opportunities for your child to play with others can help strengthen important social skills. Whether through playdates, family gatherings, community activities, or visits to the park, children can practice sharing, taking turns, cooperating, resolving conflicts, and using good manners. These experiences help children gain confidence in social settings and prepare them for success in the classroom.
  5. Practice the School Morning Routine. A few weeks before school starts, begin practicing the morning routine your child will follow during the school year. Gradually adjust bedtimes and wake-up times to align with the school schedule. It can also be helpful to familiarize your child with the trip to school by driving the route and pointing out where they will enter the building. Practicing these routines ahead of time can reduce anxiety and help children feel more comfortable on the first day.

Kindergarten is an exciting milestone filled with opportunities for learning, growth, and new friendships. By taking time to practice these five strategies, families can help children approach the first day with greater confidence and enthusiasm. While some nervousness is natural, preparation can make the transition smoother for both children and parents/caregivers. If you have concerns about your child’s adjustment to school, please reach out to your school’s Youth First Mental Health Professional or school counselor for support and guidance.

Tiffany Austin, MSW, LSW, is a Youth First Mental Health Professional at Glenwood Leadership Academy in Vanderburgh County. Youth First, Inc., is a nonprofit dedicated to strengthening youth and families. Youth First provides over 100 highly trained mental health professionals (primarily master’s level social workers), prevention programs, parent engagement coordinators, and bilingual support personnel to 130 schools across 14 Indiana counties. Over 55,000 youth and families each year are served by Youth First’s school-based social work and community programs that promote mental health, prevent substance misuse, and maximize student success. To learn more about Youth First, visit youthfirstinc.org or call 812-421-8336.

 

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Community Good Grants Awarded to Youth First, Inc.

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Grants to Provide Mental Health Support for Vanderburgh and Warrick County Students

June 10, 2026

(Evansville, IN) Youth First is celebrating a $10,000 Community Good Grant from the Vanderburgh Community Foundation and a $15,000 Community Good Grant from the Warrick County Community Foundation. This funding will strengthen the mental health and well-being of students in 32 Youth First partner schools in Vanderburgh County and 13 Youth First partner schools in Warrick County.

These grants will enable Youth First to provide its school-based student assistance program and family and community prevention programs to help students build valuable life skills and healthy mindsets as they grow into thriving adults and enter the workforce.

Youth First embeds highly trained mental health professionals in school buildings and partners with over 130 schools across 14 Indiana counties. Youth First Mental Health Professionals build caring relationships, promote healthy choices, foster readiness for positive change, and boost resiliency, along with other valuable life skills.

“Every grant we make is a testament to the power of local philanthropy,” said Alysia Rhinefort, Community Impact Director. Our donors make it possible for the Community Foundation to invest in organizations like Youth First that are improving lives and strengthening our community. We are honored to steward these resources and help turn generosity into meaningful impact.”

Youth First President & CEO Holli Sullivan shared, “Our kids and families are dealing with busier schedules, greater stress and more complex challenges than ever. That’s why it’s so important to have easy access to skilled mental health support and prevention programs in school buildings, where students, parents, and teachers can take full advantage of it. We are grateful for a partnership with the Community Foundation to build strong futures for kids.”

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About Youth First, Inc.:

Youth First, Inc. is a nonprofit dedicated to strengthening youth and families. Youth First provides prevention programs and over 100 highly trained mental health professionals (primarily master’s level social workers), parent engagement coordinators, and bilingual support personnel who assess needs, develop and implement prevention plans, and connect students and their families to vital resources in 130 schools across 14 Indiana counties. Over 55,000 youth and families per year are served by Youth First’s school-based student assistance program and community programs that promote mental health, prevent substance misuse, and maximize student success. To learn more about Youth First, visit youthfirstinc.org or call 812-421-8336.

About the Community Foundation:

The Community Foundation connects people, ideas, and resources to strengthen communities, today and for generations to come. Since its founding, the Foundation has directed nearly $80 million in grants to local nonprofits, supported scholarships for students, and invested in programs that make the region stronger, healthier, and more resilient. As a trusted convener and philanthropic leader, it works alongside donors, nonprofits, civic partners, and community members to address shared challenges and create lasting impact across Southwest Indiana.

 

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The Importance of Setting Healthy Boundaries with Your Child

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By Jenna Pauli, MSW, LCSW – April 15, 2026 –

Healthy parent – child relationships tend to thrive when clear boundaries are established. Boundaries act as guidelines, helping children understand what behaviors and communication are appropriate and expected within the family.

These limits help children navigate big emotions, understand expectations, and develop self-discipline and respect. With clear boundaries in place, children can grow in independence while parents feel acknowledged and valued. Rather than being merely strict rules, boundaries provide structure and create a foundation of care, trust, and mutual support for both parents and children.

There are several effective strategies for setting and maintaining healthy boundaries with your child, including consistency, clear communication, positive reinforcement, flexibility, modeling appropriate behavior, and involving your child in the process. Together, these approaches shift the focus of boundaries away from control and toward guidance, safety, and mutual understanding for both parents and children.

Consistency is essential when it comes to setting boundaries, as it helps children understand what to expect. When limits are applied inconsistently or frequently change, children may become confused or frustrated, feeling unsure of how to meet expectations. Clear and predictable boundaries allow children to rise to those expectations while fostering a sense of trust, stability, and security.

When children understand both the boundaries and the reasons behind them, they are more likely to meet expectations. Having age-appropriate conversations ahead of time helps set them up for success. For example, you might say, “You can watch TV for 10 minutes, and then it’s time to go upstairs and brush your teeth for bed.” Communicating expectations in advance and following through consistently helps reduce frustration and prevents unnecessary conflict.

Involving your child in the process of setting boundaries can foster a sense of responsibility and mutual respect. When children feel that their perspectives are heard and valued, they are more likely to take ownership of expectations and follow through with them.

When your child consistently respects established boundaries, offering verbal praise and small rewards can reinforce their positive behavior and motivate them to keep it up. Simple acknowledgments such as, “You did a great job finishing your homework before soccer practice. Thank you for your hard work,” can go a long way.

While consistency is key, boundaries should also allow for flexibility, especially as your child grows and matures. Adapting expectations to match your child’s developmental stage ensures that boundaries remain appropriate and effective. For example, as children get older, it is natural for their bedtime to be adjusted to reflect their increasing independence and changing needs.

Children learn a great deal by observing their parents. By modeling healthy boundaries, such as respecting personal space, following household expectations, and managing
emotions effectively, parents demonstrate the behaviors they want to see. This not only teaches important life skills but also fosters a strong sense of responsibility and emotional security in children.

Setting boundaries isn’t always easy, but it becomes more effective when you involve your child in the process, remain consistent, and communicate clearly. Over time, these efforts help create a happier home environment where each family member understands what is expected of them.

Jenna Pauli, MSW, LCSW, is a Youth First Mental Health Professional at Good Shepherd Catholic School in Vanderburgh County. Youth First, Inc., is a nonprofit dedicated to strengthening youth and families. Youth First provides over 100 highly trained mental health professionals (primarily master’s level social workers), prevention programs, parent engagement coordinators, and bilingual support personnel to 130 schools across 14 Indiana counties. Over 55,000 youth and families each year are served by Youth First’s school-based social work and community programs that promote mental health, prevent substance misuse, and maximize student success. To learn more about Youth First, visit youthfirstinc.org or call 812-421-8336.

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The Importance of a Healthy Parent/Child Relationship

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By Amber Nunaley, MSW, LCSW – April 2, 2026 –

Raising a child is no small task, and it often requires the support of a “village.” While many people view parenting as simply providing shelter, clothing, food, and toys, it goes far beyond meeting basic needs. In the busyness of making sure those necessities are covered, it’s easy for parents to overlook the importance of spending quality time with their child.

A healthy relationship with your child begins at birth, through the simple but powerful act of responding to their needs – comforting their cries, ensuring they are fed, and keeping them clean and safe. While these actions may seem routine, they play a crucial role in building trust, teaching the child that their parent or guardian is a reliable source of care and security.

As the child grows into the toddler stage, they begin to explore their independence while staying close to their parent/guardian. This balance of curiosity and connection is a positive sign that the child feels safe, secure, and confident, knowing they are supported even as they venture out on their own.

A parent/guardian can nurture a strong, healthy relationship with their young child by intentionally spending meaningful time together. This might include getting down on the floor to play, engaging with them on a trip to the park, or reading a book together at bedtime. 

When a child begins preschool, the transition can be just as emotional for parents as it is for the child. After spending the first few years together each day, this new separation marks a significant change in routine. To continue nurturing a strong relationship, parents can take an active interest in their child’s experiences by asking about their day and making time to stay connected through shared activities and meaningful moments.

As children enter middle childhood, they spend much of their day at school and begin forming stronger connections with peers. Invitations to birthday parties, sleepovers, or playdates become more common, and parents may start to feel less central in their child’s daily life. During this stage, maintaining a healthy relationship often requires more intentional effort. Setting aside dedicated time to connect, such as sharing a meal each evening, can make a meaningful difference. Sitting down as a family to talk about the day’s highlights, plans for tomorrow, and everyday thoughts creates space for connection. Keeping distractions like phones and tablets away during this time helps ensure that both parent and child are fully present and engaged.

The final stage of childhood – adolescence – can feel especially challenging for many families. Teenagers often seek more independence, choosing to spend more time with friends and sometimes appearing more distant at home. While this shift can be difficult, it is a normal and temporary part of development. During this stage, parents need to maintain clear expectations and healthy boundaries while also keeping lines of communication open. Taking an interest in what your teenager enjoys can create natural opportunities for connection. Continuing simple routines, like regular family meals and check-ins, can provide a consistent space for support, understanding, and meaningful interaction. In the blink of an eye, your tiny baby has grown up to be a young adult.

Building and maintaining a healthy parent–child relationship is an ongoing effort that requires commitment. When additional support or tools are needed, Youth First offers a variety of helpful programs, including Family First for families and Family Foundations, which supports early bonding between parents and their baby. To learn more about these opportunities, you can visit youthfirstinc.org or connect with a Youth First Mental Health Professional at your child’s school.

Amber Nunaley, MSW, LCSW, is a Youth First Mental Health Professional at Academy for Innovative Studies in Vanderburgh County. Youth First, Inc., is a nonprofit dedicated to strengthening youth and families. Youth First provides over 100 highly trained mental health professionals (primarily master’s level social workers), prevention programs, parent engagement coordinators, and bilingual support personnel to 130 schools across 14 Indiana counties. Over 55,000 youth and families each year are served by Youth First’s school-based social work and community programs that promote mental health, prevent substance misuse, and maximize student success. To learn more about Youth First, visit youthfirstinc.org or call 812-421-8336.

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Letting Go of Perfectionism

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By Niki Walls, MSW, LSW – October 29, 2025 –

When’s the last time you tried something new without worrying about whether you would be good at it? As children, we would happily play and try something new; we were not consumed with thoughts of failure. However, as adults, we often avoid hobbies unless we believe we can master them.

At what point in our lives does this change-up happen? How can we be successful role models to students, expect them to improve, and not add to the pressure of perfectionism? 

We live in a society that thrives on performance, productivity, and perfection. This can be harmful when dealing with children. Students often feel pressured to be perfect at everything they do. If they are unsure if they will be good at something, they may avoid it altogether. The way society has made “good enough” seem like “not enough” will often push students to the point of not trying at all.

The message students need to hear is that they do not have to be perfect, or even good, at something to help them grow. Even without perfection, a hobby, physical activity, or passion can greatly support a student’s mental well-being. The fear of failure is holding many students back from reaching their full potential. Studies show that trying new activities boosts creativity, lowers stress, and even helps build resilience. 

When students only do what they are already good at, they may miss out on experiences that could bring them new joy, diverse friendships, and valuable life skills. When students try something new without the added pressure of being perfect, they can build resiliency, boost their confidence, encourage creativity, and have a positive outlet for stress. It also takes the pressure off for them to feel like they must perform well to be worthy of love or attention. Children need to learn the art of normalizing mistakes, not fearing them, while also shifting their brain from fight-or-flight to a state of calm. 

As adults, we can encourage this mindset by praising their effort over the mastery or perfectionism. Teachers and parents can also model imperfection. Try something new, give yourself grace when you fail, and laugh it off when things do not go as planned. This will model just how safe it is to take risks without fear of embarrassment.  

Growing up can be stressful and full of pressure for students, but not everything has to be about perfect grades, scores, or achievement. Encourage students to “fail” so they can explore who they really are while discovering new passions and building confidence. When we let go of being perfect at something, we permit ourselves to enjoy it. That joy can be a surprisingly powerful tool for our mental health. Maybe the shift starts by picking one thing you can do “badly” on purpose. Not only will it lighten your mood, but you might just have more fun than you have had in a long time. 

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Raising Confident, Independent Kids

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By Ashley Underwood, MSW, LCSW – October 22, 2025 –

Allowing your child to have independence and responsibility can be challenging. It’s difficult for some parents and guardians to acknowledge that their little ones are growing up. Just a small amount of ownership and responsibility, however, can have a big impact on your child’s development. Independence builds self-confidence, helps prepare them to complete tasks on their own in the future, and has benefits for parents as well.  

Your child’s independence will grow as they complete simple tasks. Easy tasks are best for little ones. A common example of building independence in your young child might include asking them to put their backpack and lunchbox away after they get home from school. Older children may be given the responsibility of preparing their backpack for school in the morning and hanging it up properly when they return home. While taking care of a backpack may seem like a small task, it promotes responsibility and independence.

Another way to foster independence is by allowing children to make choices. The decision can be as simple as, “Do you want to wear your Spider-Man pajamas or your Mickey Mouse pajamas to bed?” or “Would you like apples or strawberries with your sandwich?” There are countless opportunities for building independence. In the morning, let them choose their hairstyle for school or which socks they want to wear. In the evening, ask them to complete a small task such as setting the table for dinner or choosing which book they’d like to read before bed.

Making simple decisions such as this builds independence and responsibility while also developing problem-solving and decision-making skills.  

Along with completing tasks and making decisions, there are other ways you can build your child’s independence. Being consistent with a specific routine or schedule allows children to grow in this area. Consistency helps a child know what to expect each day and what will happen next. An inconsistent routine can cause confusion, create struggles, and potentially cause reactions such as a tantrum or outburst.  

Taking a step back as a parent also promotes independence in your child. Of course, parental supervision is important, and the child’s safety should always come first. It’s essential to be present while still allowing your child to explore their independence. Mistakes are inevitable, but they help both children and adults learn more about themselves, others, and the world.  

Independence should be a daily part of a child’s life. You may find that some tasks your child helps with take additional time, but they will be thrilled when they are allowed to help. Their confidence will grow with each little step they take toward independence. 

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