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Game Nights Build Family Connection

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By /Beth Thomas, MSW, LSW – November 27, 2024 –

Growing up, and to this day, game nights have been a regular activity my family enjoys. Whether it is our annual “Game Day” in the winter season where we all gather for a day of playing our favorite card and board games or trying out new games together when visiting out-of-town family, playing games has been a fun way for my family to bond.

Reflecting on all the time my family has spent together playing games, I recognize how strongly it impacted our relationships, without actually realizing it in the moment. Along with strengthening relationships, there are countless hidden benefits that come from family game nights.

Focusing on the benefits for children, playing games has a strong influence on a child’s development. Playing games strengthens hand/eye coordination and fine motor skills. Games that are especially good for fine motor skills include Jenga, Operation, and any games that involve rolling dice or shuffling cards.

When a child plays games, there is a high likelihood their grades will improve. Games entailing academic elements can help students prepare for and excel in school. Examples of games with academic elements include Uno, Scrabble, and Chutes and Ladders.

Problem-solving is another developmental skill that can be improved by playing games. Certain games help with the growth of memorization skills as well as assisting children in solving problems on their own. Examples of games that promote problem-solving include Chess, Trouble, Connect 4, and Monopoly.

Additional benefits of game playing include growth in vocabulary and reading skills, building math skills, and encouraging strategic thinking. At school, motivation levels increase, and students have stronger relationships with their peers. Children learn how to take turns, develop patience, practice playing fair, follow rules, and gain the ability to predict outcomes. From watching their family win and lose, children can also develop good sportsmanship.

Playing games has benefits for all members of the household. No matter how young a child is, they are positively impacted by this time together. Two- to three-year-olds have the skills for beginner games or to participate some, and infants enjoy the noise of conversation. Games promote family bonding through communication, working together, and making memories.

For adults, laughing and playing games can reduce stress and lower blood pressure though the release of endorphins. Not only are games an amazing way to help children develop in all aspects of their lives, spending this time together also creates unforgettable memories you will have forever.

While it can be a challenge to add playing games to the mix of work, sports practices, homework, school, and other family commitments, there are creative ways to make time. Some ideas include playing a game right after dinner, scheduling dates in advance, playing games at birthday celebrations, or even working in a short game for ten minutes. Grab a game, your family, and start your own family game night tradition! The benefits will continue for a lifetime.

November 27, 2024/by Youth First
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Express Gratitude in the Season of Thanksgiving

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By Callie Sanders, MSW, LSW – November 19, 2024 –

Somehow, here we are. November is flying by, and we’re in the season of Thanksgiving.

Being thankful and appreciative for what is received, tangible or intangible, is an example of gratitude. By acknowledging the good things in life, people usually recognize that sources of goodness can exist both inside and outside of themselves. Gratitude helps people connect to something larger and can help them appreciate what they have instead of always reaching for something new.

Although it may sound silly at first, this mental state grows stronger with time and practice. Studies support an association between well-being and gratitude, resulting in fewer doctor’s visits, taking better care of yourself, and improved relationships.

For example, a study of couples found that individuals who took time to express gratitude for their partners felt more positive towards each other and more comfortable expressing concerns related to their relationship.

Workplace gratitude also comes with great benefits. Showing gratitude in the workplace costs nothing and only requires minimal time. This can lead to employee morale and better performance. Leaders can also create an environment where everyone is responsible for showing gratitude to ensure all are recognized.

In a recent study by the American Psychological Association, researchers found that 93% of employees are motivated to do their best at work and 88% reported being more engaged when they feel valued by their employer. Only 21% of the polled group said they were considering searching for new employment in the upcoming year.  

Another benefit of practicing gratitude at work is “the spillover effect,” which has the power to enrich other aspects of our lives outside of the workplace. With gratitude, many people experience greater satisfaction in life, reduced stress, and a healthier outlook, physically and mentally.

Here are a few simple ways to start cultivating more gratitude.

  1. Write or email a thank-you note. This can help nurture and strengthen relationships with others. You can decide how often to send a note of gratitude. Do not forget to write an expression of gratitude to yourself.
  2. Keep a gratitude journal. This will help boost happiness and better coping for life’s challenges.
  3. Take time to meditate. Practice mindfulness by focusing on what you are grateful for today.
  4. Say a prayer. Prayer can help cultivate gratitude.
  5. Mentally thank someone. Think about someone who has done something nice for you and mentally thank that person.

It’s never too early to start cultivating an attitude of gratitude in your child as well. According to verywellmind.com, teaching children gratitude can help them feel happier, support better social relationships, and improve overall health and well-being. Some strategies may include performing acts of kindness together, modeling gratitude in your own life, and looking for the silver lining to help kids see that something good can come from difficult circumstances.

Life brings many unexpected twists and turns. There’s no better way to tackle that stress and show yourself and others love than by spreading a little gratitude along the way. Make it a daily practice. In the words of Bryan Robles, “Stop thinking of gratitude as a byproduct of your circumstances and start thinking of it as a world view.”

November 19, 2024/by Youth First
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Tips for Helping Children with ADHD

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By Jenny Bouchie, MSW, LSW – November 8, 2024 –

According to Forbes, approximately 5.7 million children are diagnosed with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). It can be frustrating for the child to complete schoolwork and homework, and at times, equally frustrating for adults to help.

However, there are many ways to support a child diagnosed with ADHD academically:

  1. Provide brief and clear directions. Children with ADHD often have trouble with executive functioning skills, such as memory and attention. When directions are brief and clear, it will help the child both remember and maintain their attention. Using visual directions and reminders can be very helpful. Additionally, having the directions in a numerical list, with each specific direction being a sentence or less, may be beneficial. 
  1. Be sensitive to your child’s time management skills. According to The Center on the Developing Child at Harvard University, a child starts developing these skills around the ages of 3-5 but does not have major development in this area until adolescence and young adulthood. A child with ADHD may struggle beginning assignments, chores, and/or staying on task. Setting a timer is a great way to give children visual and auditory cues. Before setting the timer, make sure to set expectations. For example, “I’m going to set this timer for two minutes. When it goes off, you are going to start your math homework.” There are many timers available for free online. Displaying the timer for the child to see will help them remember what they are supposed to be working on.
  1. Break tasks into smaller chunks. Breaking tasks up into smaller pieces is actually a way to help build a child’s executive functioning skills. Children with ADHD are likely to feel overwhelmed with large assignments or tasks and/or multi-step assignments or tasks. Breaking the task or assignment into smaller pieces at a time will help with feeling in control rather than overwhelmed.
  1. Develop structure and routine. This is critical for all children, particularly for those with ADHD. According to the ADHD Foundation, developing routines helps a child become familiar with what they need to do in class and at home, which further leads to a sense of security. Of course, the earlier routines and structure are introduced, the better. 
  1. Work with your child to develop organizational skills. Many children with ADHD struggle in this area, whether it’s their messy backpack, cluttered desk/work area, or even being prone to losing things. Having a daily schedule available, Post-it notes with reminders, and checklists or to-do lists can all help improve organizational skills. 
  1. Reward positive behaviors. Everyone likes to be noticed when they are doing something good. Children with ADHD tend to struggle with self-esteem, so pointing out a positive is a great self-esteem booster. According to The ADHD Foundation, positive praise actually helps with improving focus. Setting up a reward chart is another way to encourage positive behaviors. Collaborate with the child about realistic goals and what their reward will be once earned. 

Children with ADHD can be very successful in the classroom and at home. Learning what helps the child complete tasks with the greatest success goes a long way toward developing positive self-esteem. For more information regarding how to support a child with ADHD, please reach out to your school’s Youth First Mental Health Professional.

November 8, 2024/by Youth First
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Hidden Disabilities – More than Meets the Eye

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By Molly Johnson, MSW, LSW – October 30, 2024 –

Have you ever heard any of the following?  “They don’t look disabled to me.”  “Doesn’t seem to me that they need handicap parking. They walk just fine.” “I think they just wanted to bring their pet along. They seem perfectly healthy and have no need for a service animal.”

When most people think of a person with a disability, they most often think of physical disabilities. While physical disabilities are debilitating, hidden disabilities are often forgotten. Unfortunately, individuals with hidden disabilities are often made to feel as though they are faking or trying to get special accommodations without need.

According to Hidden Disabilities Association, a hidden or invisible disability is a “physical, mental, or neurological condition that is not visible from the outside, yet can limit or challenge a person’s movements, senses, or activities.”

Many disabilities are not easy to detect. Examples of hidden disabilities include mental illness, lupus, autism, asthma, cancer, arthritis, learning disabilities, and many more.

These disabilities are not immediately obvious to others. For some people, this can make it difficult to believe that someone with a “non-visible” disability needs extra help and support.

Every individual – with or without disabilities – is unique. It is important to teach children to be kind to others, as we do not know what an individual is experiencing. Following are some suggestions on how to teach kindness and acceptance:

  1. As the adult, look for opportunities to model kindness and acceptance of others. Children learn by watching. Watching an adult take time to be caring toward another person increases the likelihood the child will replicate this behavior.
  2. Involve the child in creating ideas to be kind to others. Brainstorm ideas how to be kind at school, to siblings, to church members, and to themselves.
  3. Encourage children to ask questions about differences. Doing so allows them to learn about people that may not be exactly like them. When students understand why others are different, it makes it easier to accept their differences.

No two people with a disability will look alike. It is important to teach students to treat others with kindness and to stand up for people that need assistance. Just because a disability does not meet the eye does not mean it fails to exist.

If you would like additional information or have a child in need of support due to a hidden (or visible) disability, please reach out to the Youth First Mental Health Professional in your child’s school. To find out if your school has a Youth First Mental Health Professional, please use this link: https://youthfirstinc.org/mentalhealthprofessional

October 30, 2024/by Youth First
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Developing Your Child’s Attention Span

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By Megan Shake, MSW, LCSW – October 23, 2024 –

How long is your child’s attention span? Many people assume children’s attention spans should be longer than they actually are. You might be surprised to learn that the average is generally two minutes per year of age.

So, if your child is five years old, their attention span is about 10 minutes. Like anything else a child learns, it takes time and practice to help develop their attention span. It is not something that can be forced or happen overnight.

As parents and caregivers, we may become frustrated when a child won’t sit still or focus on a task for a period of time, but it is important to remember where the child’s development stands. Consider if their inattention is developmentally typical or not. Sometimes our expectations for children’s attention spans are high, but their brains may not be ready yet. After all, the brain is not fully developed until the age of 25 or even 30, so it is no surprise that they have a lot of room for growth.

The following are ways to help support the development of your child’s attention span.

Celebrate small wins each time your child stays on task. Positive words and encouragement go a long way to motivate a child. Provide activities that encourage thinking, such as a puzzle, memory game, or activity book.


It’s important to note that screen time does not help develop attention spans. It may seem like it does since the child is sitting still, but it doesn’t provide sufficient practice, as the brain isn’t doing the work during this time. In fact, it may have the opposite effect. Some studies show that increased screen time has even been linked to reduced attention spans and concentration skills.


Other helpful ideas include breaking larger tasks into smaller ones, keeping instructions clear and simple, removing distractions, and following consistent routines. Also remember that context is a big factor. Consider situational and physical aspects such as how the child is feeling, what time of day it is, if it is a noisy environment, if they are hungry, tired, and so forth.


Additionally, providing breaks is extremely important. Breaks help kids rest, regulate, reset, and refocus their attention. While there are countless brain break ideas out there, some include various breathing techniques, guided meditations, yoga, stretching, playing, and going outside. 


Finally, if you feel that your child is struggling with their attention span beyond what you feel you can support with these strategies or beyond what is typical for their age, don’t be afraid to reach out to your child’s doctor or others to seek professional help.

October 23, 2024/by Youth First
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Recognizing Signs of an Eating Disorder in Your Child

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By Courtney Beitler, MSW, LCSW – October 17, 2024 –

As a parent, being attentive to your child’s well-being is crucial, especially when it comes to their relationship with food and body image. Eating disorders can affect anyone, regardless of age, gender, or background, and early detection is key to intervention and recovery.

It is often assumed that eating disorders impact only females. According to the National Eating Disorders Association in 2020, up to 30 million people in the United States suffer from an eating disorder; 20 million of those are women compared to 10 million men. These figures encompass various eating disorders such as anorexia nervosa, bulimia nervosa and binge eating disorder.

So, what are some signs to watch for in your child or teenager? Changes in eating habits could mean the onset of an eating disorder. Be mindful of drastic changes in eating patterns, such as skipping meals, making excuses to avoid eating with the family, or sudden interest in restrictive diets. Be aware of any body image concerns by paying attention to negative comments about body shape or weight, excessive preoccupation with appearance, or sudden interest in intense exercise regimens.

The above signs could also lead to withdrawal or isolation and mood swings. Isolation can be seen from the family as well as from friends and peers. Notice if your child or teen becomes more withdrawn, irritable, or anxious, especially around mealtimes or social gatherings involving food.

Physical symptoms can be easier to spot, and unfortunately, a symptom of a progressing eating disorder. Physical symptoms include the following: weight loss or weight fluctuations, fatigue, dizziness, frequent trips to the bathroom after meals, or the development of unusual food rituals.

Be wary if your child or teen starts hiding food, food wrappers, or becomes secretive about their eating habits. Oftentimes, a person struggling with an eating disorder simultaneously becomes interested in food or cooking. While interest in cooking (without other symptoms present) is a positive, an obsessive focus on food preparation or constantly talking about food may indicate an unhealthy relationship with eating.

If you notice some of these signs in your child or teen, it is important to express concern as soon as possible. Be aware that denial and defensiveness are also common behaviors for someone with an eating disorder. If you express concern about your child’s eating habits or body image, observe how they respond. Denial, defensiveness, or anger could be indicators of underlying issues.

It’s essential to approach your child with empathy and understanding. Open communication and seeking professional help from a healthcare provider or therapist specializing in eating disorders are vital steps towards intervention and support. Remember, early intervention can significantly improve the chances of recovery and overall well-being for your child.


Below are some outpatient resources for eating disorder treatment in southern/central Indiana:

The Chestnut Group of Indiana
Evansville, IN

812-221-2710

Lampion Center
Evansville, IN

812-471-1776

Stanton Nutrition Counseling
Evansville, IN

812-491-0194

LifeStance Health
Evansville, IN

812-247-8010

Boca Recovery Center
Bloomington, IN
812-413-9796

Indiana Health Group
Carmel, IN
317-653-4897

Care to Change
Avon, IN
317-350-8663

Arbor Wellness
Indianapolis, IN
615-805-6119

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When Your Child Refuses Therapy

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By Beth Greene, MSW, LSW – October 9, 2024 –

As a society, we have made great strides in raising awareness for mental health. Mental health is more openly discussed, and people are more aware of signs and symptoms. These strides have added support in our homes, schools, and communities that did not exist 20 years ago.

Technology has assisted with the availability of mental health information, but unfortunately, many people stop there. We still have a long way to go, because let’s face it, actually seeking mental health treatment continues to have stigmas for both adults and children.

Sometimes parents, doctors, or school personnel will recognize the signs and symptoms of a mental health concern in a child, but the child may refuse treatment, or the parent may be hesitant due to denial or fear of bias from others. Many people feel they can handle the problems they are facing on their own or feel uncomfortable talking to a “stranger” about their problems. Some parents feel guilty or embarrassed talking about their child or family’s home life stressors.

Trying something new can be scary, but it’s important that we take our mental health just as seriously as our physical health. So how do we convince our children to go to therapy when, as a society, we may still experience discrimination towards mental health supports and seeking professional help?

First, openly discuss mental health issues in an age-appropriate way with your child. Verbalize how you feel and what you need when you are experiencing stress, grief, or a traumatic life event. Schedule therapy for yourself when you notice healthy coping skills aren’t enough or you find yourself coping in unhealthy ways, like isolating yourself or using drugs and alcohol to cope.

Next, utilize school counselors and social workers. Often times, a school-based mental health professional can provide support, mentorship, guidance, and healing. However, if the school-based social worker does not have expertise in the area of concern or there isn’t progress being made in the identified area of concern, it would be important to seek outpatient services.

School-based mental health professionals do provide support for trauma-related concerns; however, it’s not always appropriate to expect a child to process their trauma while at school and then return to their regular studies. Some children will say they only feel comfortable with their school-based mental health provider and say they don’t want an outpatient therapist. However, the school resource is only available during school hours. The school-based professional can help have these difficult conversations with your child as well.

Lastly, if your child continues to refuse to go to therapy, it could be appropriate for the parent to make a therapy appointment for themselves to receive support for their own stressors and guidance on how they can support their child outside of therapy.

The National Alliance of Mental Illness (NAMI) reveals that every year, about 21 percent of adults in the US are affected by some kind of mental health issue. Unfortunately, not everyone from this population seeks help. According to NAMI, “Less than half of this population seeks professional guidance – with many of them reaching out for help after nearly a decade of hesitance and denial.”

These statistics show that many mental health signs and symptoms are showing up in childhood but are untreated until adulthood. Talk to your doctor, school counselor, or social worker about local mental health providers for your child if you suspect they may be struggling with their mental health.

October 9, 2024/by Youth First
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Mindfulness Can Help Your Child Handle Stress

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By Jordyn Bryant, MSW, LSW – October 2, 2024 –

Having stress or anxiety as a child can be hard. Often, children hear, “You are too young to have stress” or other statements that dismiss their feelings. Recognizing that children can have negative emotions about things adults consider “small” or “trivial” can help children validate their feelings and begin to cope with them to regulate their emotions.

One healthy coping mechanism is mindfulness.

According to understood.org, practicing mindfulness can ease feelings of stress and anxiety. Mindfulness is the practice of staying in the moment, which helps children and adults identify how they are feeling right then and how they can adjust to a more neutral thought or feeling.

Often when we are thinking of something, we tend to think of how it played out in the past or how it can play out in the future. When we stay in the moment, it helps to focus on what can help now instead of what hurt us in the past or what could go wrong in the future.

A big part of mindfulness is focusing on your breathing. When your thoughts begin to go elsewhere, focus on how your breathing feels to bring you back into the present,  recognizing and acknowledging how you feel in the moment. When children learn this, they are better able to practice self-control and strengthen their resiliency. According to mindful.org, studies show that the benefits of mindfulness for children are:

  • Increased focus
  • Improved academic performance
  • Decreased levels of stress

Working on these things can bolster confidence and improve emotional regulation and the overall well-being of a child’s mental health.

As adults, the more we practice and model mindfulness ourselves, the more we can help our children learn. It is important to recognize the feelings in ourselves and our children. Recognizing that having feelings is okay – even the ones that do not feel so good – is a way to have a healthy emotional balance. Being mentally and emotionally healthy can create positive changes in life, including our physical health, creating stronger families, and having more positive social skills. You can practice mindfulness in everyday life, even when you do not have time for 20-30 minutes of breathing and yoga.

Some examples are:

  • Practicing gratitude
  • Checking in with your body
  • Utilizing your 5 senses
  • Focusing on your breathing
  • Practicing active listening

Practicing mindfulness and helping children practice mindfulness sets us up for success in different aspects of our lives. You will be amazed to recognize the changes that come with being in the “here and now” vs. thinking about the unknowns and the “should haves.”

October 2, 2024/by Youth First
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Seeking Understanding: The Key to Improving Relationships

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By Holly Walther, MSW, LSW – September 26, 2024

As the saying goes, “There’s no handbook for parenting.”  It’s a complicated yet fulfilling journey that evokes so many emotions. During times of discipline, we can find ourselves doubting ourselves as we try to strike a balance between justice and compassion. In these uncertain moments, seeking understanding ensures this important equilibrium.

Reacting Vs. Responding

Living in a fast-paced society creates a proneness toward reactivity. But this tendency should not carry over into our closest relationships, especially those within our homes. Your child spills milk on the kitchen floor, and your immediate response might be frustration or annoyance. Your teenager arrives home late, and you might express offense. These reactions originate from our own triggers such as experiences, stress, and exhaustion. But what if instead of reacting in judgment, we seek to understand the situation from outside of our own perspective?

The Importance of Empathy

Empathy is a cornerstone of understanding. In the words of social work researcher Brene Brown, “In order to empathize with someone’s experience, you must be willing to believe them as they see it, and not how you imagine their experience.”  When we empathize with our children, we recognize that their behaviors aren’t always a deliberate challenge to our authority; it’s often a reflection of their inner world and developing mind. Practicing empathy creates a safe environment where our children can express their feelings, fears, and desires.

Changing Unhealthy Patterns

No parents are perfect, not even our own. Perhaps we remember feeling misunderstood, dismissed, or unappreciated. Memories like these shape our parenting styles, sometimes in ways unaware. But seeking understanding breaks this cycle. When we choose to see our children as unique individuals with their own struggles, we break free from generational patterns and cultivate a home where everyone is heard, seen, and understood.

Below are some practical actions for seeking understanding:

  1. Pause and Reflect—Before responding, take a deep breath (or two or three). Openly consider your child’s perspective. What might be influencing their behavior? Is there an underlying need or fear?
  1. Actively Listen—Give your child your undivided attention. Ask open-ended questions such as, “What do you think would make things better?” or “Would you please help me understand what is bothering you?” Show genuine interest in their thoughts and feelings.
  1. Validate Their Emotions—Even if you disagree with their actions, affirm your children’s emotions. Statements like, “I see you’re upset. Let’s talk about it,” help them know that you are trying to understand rather than judge.
  1. Learn Their Love Language—Each child expresses love differently—through words, acts of service, gifts, touch, or quality time. Discover their love language and use it to connect.  Learn more at https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language.

As parents, we hold immense power to shape our children’s lives. The rewards of seeking understanding are immeasurable—deeper bonds, a more harmonious home, and the fulfillment of knowing we are shaping compassionate, resilient human beings who will carry forth a beacon of love and empathy into future generations. 

September 26, 2024/by Youth First
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Your Student Needs Good Quality Sleep

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By Katie Martin, MSW, LCSW, CSAYC – September 18, 2024 –

A good night’s sleep can make or break a student’s success in school and in life. Quality rest and a sufficient amount of sleep create better outcomes in academics, social settings, mental functioning, motivation, emotional regulation and physical energy, among other things. 

There are many reasons a student may not be sleeping well, such as staying up too late, mental illness, stress, poor health in general, etc. It is important to establish good sleep hygiene. Many think of hygiene as related to cleanliness, but hygiene is simply doing what is conducive to maintaining health. Sleep hygiene maintains our health on a multitude of levels. 

Below is the recommended amount of sleep by age, according to the Mayo Clinic:

Infants 4 months – 12 months             12 to 16 hours per 24 hours, including naps

One to two years                                      11 to 14 hours per 24 hours, including naps

Three to five years                                   10 to 13 hours per 24 hours, including naps

Six to 12 years                                          9 to 12 hours per 24 hours

Thirteen to 18 years                                 8 to 10 hours per 24 hours

Adults                                                          7 or more hours per night

It’s important to establish good sleep hygiene as early as possible for student success. It may feel daunting as a parent or student if routines have not been previously implemented. In some cases, there may be strategies that have been attempted and failed, but consistency is key, and it may take some trial and error.

Families can help by encouraging structure and participating in healthy nighttime routines. Consult a doctor if a healthy routine isn’t working. In some cases, families may need to advocate for a sleep study if rest is not improved with good hygiene. 

The following tips for sleep hygiene are provided by the Children’s Hospital of Orange County:

  1. Stick to the same bedtime and wake time every day, even on weekends. Staying up late during the weekend and then trying to catch up by sleeping in can throw off a child’s sleep schedule for several days.
  2. Beds are for sleeping. Lying on a bed and doing other activities makes it hard for your brain to associate your bed with sleep.
  3. Establish a comfy, cozy room. A bedroom should be cool, quiet and comfortable.
  4. Alarm clocks are for waking up. Youth who stare at the clock waiting and hoping to fall asleep should have the clock turned away from them.
  5. Stick to a bedtime routine. A predictable series of events should lead up to bedtime. This can include brushing teeth, putting on pajamas, showering, reading, etc.
  6. Engage in only quiet, calm and relaxing activities before bedtime. Listen to soft, calm music. Avoid activities that are excessively stimulating, such as screen time and physical exercise. It is best to keep screen time out of the bedroom and limit use to at least one hour before bedtime.
  7. Relax. Practice deep breathing and imagining positive images that bring happiness and comfort.
  8. Start the day off right with exercise. Exercise and physical activity earlier in the day can help children focus, feel more energetic and awake during the day, and fall asleep and stay asleep later on that evening.
  9. Avoid caffeine. Avoid caffeine in the late afternoon and evening. It can cause nighttime awakenings and shallow sleep and/or prevent one from falling asleep.
  10. If you can’t sleep, get out of bed. Get up and do something non-stimulating, such as reading a book. Repeat for 20-30 minutes if necessary. Getting out of bed prevents the bed from being associated with sleeplessness. 
  11. Put kids to bed drowsy, but awake. The ideal time for a child to go to bed is when they are drowsy but still awake. Allowing them to fall asleep in places other than their bed teaches them to associate sleep with other places.
  12. Cuddle up with a stuffed animal or soft blanket. A security item such as a stuffed animal or blanket can provide comfort for all ages.
  13. Bedtime checkups should be short and sweet. Checking in on a child is to let them know you are there and everything is okay. A check in should be brief and non-stimulating.
  14. Maintain a sleep diary. Track naps, bedtimes, wake times and behaviors to find patterns if things are not going well. Diaries can be reported to a doctor for further discussion.

With these tips, hopefully your child can establish good sleep hygiene and get quality rest so they can be at their best.

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